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Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Uneducated

Tyler & I had a doctor's appointmen this morning to get our Russian adoption medical records filled out. Our normal PCM (PA C) isn't an MD and we needed an MD to sign our records for them to be recognized by Russia, so we met with Dr D. If you recall, he was the rude doctor we met with a while ago who wouldn't sign off on our first set of medical forms because he deemed me unable to care for more children since I"m overweight. Well, it was apparent that he didn't remember us. However, he was incredibly rude about my weight (kept pushing me to get gastric bypass). He asked me if I was "aware" that I'm overweight. Gee, no, I had no idea. Thanks for sharing, buddy. And then he shared a story about a 3 year old girl who was adopted from Romania who turned out to be severely mentally retarded - the family wasn't aware of her mental challenges prior to adoption, according to Dr D. He then went on to complain that now our state taxes have to pay "thousands of dollars" for this child to be in an institution (she's now an adult) who isn't "even an American citizen". I was highly offended. How could someone not view a life as more important than tax money??? Honestly! And when an American citizen adopts a child - that child becomes an American citizen!!!! I tried to keep my cool, since we desperately needed those documents filled out to proceed wih our adoption. And yet I did make sure to emphasize that when we adopted Keith, he was in the mental state of a newborn at the age of 4 1/2 years old. We didn't know if he'd ever talk, walk, chew food, etc. And he's made such amazing progress. I added that we never know the potential of a child, but all life is valuable. Who knows if it made a difference?

We did get the documents and a copy of his medical license (all for the dossier) plus pediatics called and they have the medical forms for the 3 kids, which is good. We're just plugging away on our paperwork. :)

9 comments:

sarah said...

Dear Dr D., Your stupid.

Heidi said...

That guy makes me madder 'n a mashed cat. I'd love to give him a piece of my mind. Sorry you had to deal with him - again! - Jill!! :( Glad you're getting your paperwork together!

MoserUpdates said...

In Canada because of the universal health care system, parents who want to adopt have to prove they can care for the child and that the child won't become "a burden to society." I couldn't believe this when i read it!!

Conethia and Jim Bob said...

I remember my husband's family doctor saying "why not have your own? Is there something wrong? You just never know what you'll get when you adopt one of THEM!!" Honestly, are we paying them (Dr.'s) for their opinions?!!

Joseph and Kamber said...

Interesting you have to get medical forms and other docs for the kids. When we adopted we only needed stuff for us.

Thank goodness us out here in adoption world are here to support each other. Otherwise with all the crazies out there who worry more about YOU ruining your life by giving a child a loving home nobody would adopt. I always told people I may not be able to give them a prestigious life, but I can give them a heck of a lot more than they are getting in the orphanage. And they had a good orphanage too.

Gollie Gee I never think I'll stop getting surprised at the things people say. Why on earth is he a doctor when he doesn't seem to value human life?

Anyways I'm so glad you got the docs from him. When the adoption if final I think he deserves a nice thank you card with a photo of fam attached. He obviously doesn't get enough love.

Hevel said...

Well, actually children adopted by Americans only become American citizens if you do have USCIS approval for their adoption and they come home on an IR-3 visa. Any child adopted by Americans and entering on an IR-4 visa will be considered citizens in most states upon readoption. Children adopted by US citizens without an USCIS approval, for example while living abroad, do not become citizens by virtue of the adoptive parents' citizenship. Furthermore, this didn't work like this before the Child Citizenship Act of 2000. I, for example, was adopted by an American citizen in 1986, and I didn't become a citizen till 1995. A lot of the "early" international adoptees who turned 18 before January 1, 2001, are not citizens of the United States of America, they are still in the country on green cards. So the Romanian born woman might or might not be a citizen.

I and my partner are both citizens of the USA, but 2 of our adopted children--even though they were re-adopted in the USA--are not.

Ticklemedana said...

geez you have the WORST luck with doctors, Jilly. Stick it to em!

Sarah C said...

I am so sorry Jill! That is terrible. You are a great mom. Your children are very blessed to join your family. Some people can be so stupid. I am sorry he said those things to you. It is a good thing we listen to the promptings of the Holy Ghost and pray about our choices. I would hate to base my choices on the opinions of people like that Dr. I hope you feel peace and comfort knowing you are doing the right thing. I am thankful Heavenly Father helps us know what to do and then helps us do it. You are amazing Jill.

Carina said...

What a jerk he was. I'm so sorry. Good for you for sticking up for your children, though.